The Reason I Hate The "Midlife" Buzzword
Four ways to start your own redefinition of self.
The thing I will never feel bad about when it comes to embracing midlife is prioritizing my time and space for myself.
This year’s birthday revelation hit me; I’ve spent more of my life having a career than not.
I’ll tell you a secret. Even though this is technically my “midlife” phase, this buzz word is a trend and fad right now blazing it’s way around social media. I kind of hate it. Why must we mark what is simply a new phase of evolution with a trite hashtag.
I prefer to define myself, my own evolution and to name my own seasons from a place of totally personal self-awareness.
And listen, I understand that many women at this stage grapple with the fear of staying relevant in our fields and the nagging sense that we don’t have time for ourselves since we’ve given so much to others.
But remember, you are not here to prove that you are worthy or give yourself away until you are empty. It’s time to break free from the mindset of being “ambitious yet aimless” and instead focus on reminding yourself that you are here for you—to be “individual and intentional.” None of that kind of redefinition has to do with a hashtag label. That work happens within you.
This week, after my birthday celebrations calmed down, I taught my advanced coaching clients how to connect to this reminder. I saw again the power of paying attention to yourself before taking any new step.
Maybe you’d like to connect to yourself in a new way, too. Perhaps I can help you.
TODAY, CHECK IN WITH YOURSELF:
Know Your Meaningful Outcome - It’s why you are spending time here on the planet. Oh, and it’s not to make lunches for kids, stack up degrees or collect thousands of followers. It’s deeper than that. What do YOU bring to the world as a whole? What example are you teaching with your life for others to follow? I share about the full definition of Meaningful Outcome in Show Up Confident.
{Mine is to move women to see themselves differently and find new courage.}
Know Your Gifts & Talents - These are what you bring to the table to execute your Meaningful Outcome. Gifts you’ve had since you can remember and talents are things you’ve learned and acquired over time. The mix will be unique to you, which makes how you help others very uniquely you too.
{Mine include an engaging, creative and intuitive approach that makes me a wizard to those I work with}
Have A Target “Help” Market - We all have types and groups of people we are drawn to helping with our Meaningful Outcome and Gifts & Talents. Who are they for you specifically? Who do you help with what you have? Without knowing this, it will be tough to do #4, and you’ll find yourself frustrated to “know your purpose,” aimless in your actions, or you’ll “go through the motions” of life without truly connecting to WHY you are here…that can feel hard and lonely sometimes.
{I help women shifting out of transition - professionals, entrepreneurs who are helpers, healers and teachers who are feeling invisible to be seen so they can feel satisfied and fulfilled.}
Constantly & Continually Align Yourself - Once you know the first 3, the “work” of life becomes about always aligning yourself in growth, actions, words, deeds, vocation, decisions, child-rearing, relationships, career paths, and everything else we do. Here is where you need a process for renewing your confidence, tools to help it stick, guidance to fill the gaps and support to keep you going.
{It's why I believe in teaching tools that are permanently practical and mix them with a mentorship relationship.}
When you get close to aligning all four parts, something magical happens. You draw the people, opportunities, ideas, relationships and all you need to you!
And the best part? You feel happy. Simply, genuinely, peacefully happy.
This spring I’ll be teaching my best advice for women at this same stage. Maybe that’s you and you’re craving some nourishing, new discovery. Join my waitlist!
Until next time, keep shifting, keep growing, and keep showing up,
~ 𝕄ℂ𝔾